A Few Words About Loki

As some of you may know, on Thursday, I had to put my dog, Loki, to sleep.  

I'd like to thank everyone who has sent kind words and support about it.  Its greatly appreciated.  I haven't posted anything about it till now because I felt I needed time with it.  I'm sorry I haven't called back the people who have called me or sent messages offering to talk if I needed, but I don't think I can.  It only makes me cry to do so, so I figured I'd try and write out things here.

In November, Loki had become sick, vomiting all night and when I took her to the vet, they were unable to find a cause and thought that maybe she had gotten an infection from eating something she shouldn't.  She recovered and we thought it was a one time thing since the blood tests, x-rays and ultra-sound showed nothing unusual.  On Wednesday, Loki vomited - 4 times during the day.  Now, it wasn't normal but from time to time, Loki would wolf down her food and water and end up throwing it back up, so I wasn't overly concerned since she seemed okay enough by the late afternoon.  Then she began vomiting from about 9 p.m. and through the night - almost every hour.  In the morning, I brought her to the vet, she was exhausted and wouldn't lay down - as if she just couldn't get comfortable.

The blood tests showed nothing that would be an answer for her vomiting, but they did give her something for the nausea and started her on fluids to keep her hydrated.  The ultra-sound and x-rays again showed nothing conclusive, but they did show that her belly was filled with gas and fluids.  They suspected that there might be a blockage somewhere but nothing was showing up.  The vet kept her overnight to see how she fared and we would get a call in the morning.  On Thursday morning, the vet said there wasn't a huge change in Loki.  She was still lethargic and her belly was still in almost the same condition.  They'd see how she did and in the afternoon we'd go in and talk about what we might do - because the next step was specialists.  About 4 p.m. I got a call from the vet and was informed that Loki had begun hacking and then having trouble breathing.  They found that she probably had inhaled some bile and had either contracted pneumonia (which happens when dogs do that) or possible cancer.  They had put her on an oxygen mask to ease her breathing.  The only next step would be expensive treatments and more tests because they still had no reason for the vomiting condition and no answers at this point.  But it was clear that Loki's condition was deteriorating.

Mom and I had spoken about this the night before and in the car on the way to the vets.  There was only so much we could do and she was an elderly dog (even if she never acted like it).  We knew that we couldn't afford expensive treatments and in the end, it may not help since we still had no causes for what was going on with her.  So, it seemed the best choice for Loki, who was not doing well and was only managing to be as comfortable as they could make her, was to let her go peacefully.  

They brought Loki in and it was clear she wasn't doing well.  I won't go into detail about it.  It was difficult to see her in distress.  She calmed down as Mom and I stayed with her and it was clear to me that she wasn't going to be okay.  

No matter how hard it was to go through, I know it was the best thing for her. 

Loki: One of the very first pictures of her

I remember the day I got Loki on an overcast day in Freehold, NJ at the mall.  Mom and I were walking around and for some reason decided to see the dogs in the pet shop (this was before I knew about the mall pet shops getting dogs from puppy mills).  Mom had a Cairn Terrier many years ago when I was very little and her name was Samantha.  Samantha was a lovely dog with a wonderful disposition, sweet personality and was obedient.  My mother fell in love with the breed from then on, but we never got another - getting mostly mutts through circumstance.  On this day, we saw a male Westie and next to that, a female Cairn Terrier - both puppies.  We decided to sit with them both in the little visiting room the pet shop had and I hadn't intended to be buying any dogs that day.  The female pup kept the male in line, not letting him get away with anything.  I tutted her behavior and she looked up at me, listening and paying attention to my voice.  The pet store clerk marveled at how she was listening to me (later we joked that was the last time Loki ever listened to me again).  A few days before I had told Mom that I was going to get a dog and name it Loki - I don't know why I said it but that day in the pet store, Mom said, "There's your Loki."  She later told me that the Mom who was with me at the Mall that day was my friend and not my parent because my parent would have given me reasons not to take that dog home, but my friend was encouraging and supportive of the whole thing.  So... I chose that Cairn Terrier and named her Loki and bought a towel from Macy's to wrap her in to get her to the car through the drizzling rain and brought her home.  

Thus began an almost 14 year relationship that has definitely been such an important part of my life.  

Loki: In the apartment in Jenkintown, PA

Those who have met Loki know that she was... an acquired taste.  She was not the most well behaved dog and could be down right stubborn - especially if she focused on something.  Her bark could pierce your skull and make your brain ache.  She'd get into things and tear them apart, or knock things over.  She scratched at carpets to 'dig up' things.  She got over excited and could nip.  She didn't like other dogs (especially after getting bitten by a large German Shepard) and was generally a pretty standard Cairn Terrier in her demeanor - which could be good or bad depending on your view.

She wasn't a particularly special dog - she didn't do anything unique or any special tricks.  Loki never saved anyone's life or performed any amazing feat.  

But Loki was cute and fluffy, with big brown shoe-button eyes and little bear feet.  Her tongue was long and pink but there was a black splotch spot on it in the back which freaked me out the first time I saw it because I was sure that she had swallowed a pen or something.  She loved people and meeting them.  One of her favorite things was to sit on laps and in our house it was a completely legitimate reason to do nothing and not help because you had a dog on your lap.  Loki gave wonderful spa facials (basically face lickings which were strong enough to clean your pores) and was a champion foot licker.  Of course, she would also lick up your nose or in your ears if given a chance.

Loki: Too adorable to stay mad at.

Loki had a lot of personality.  And where ever we lived, people remembered her, said hi to her and were happy to see her.  She loved greeting people and would stop walking to sit or lay down till whoever was walking along spotted her and took the time to say hello.  She was a complete busy body, wanting to know all the business in the neighborhood and walking her was less about walking and more about her sniffing every smell and scent to get the latest news.  

I took her to obedience classes and during a training session for a sit-stay, Loki broke her stay to run across the room to jump up into the instructor's arms and kiss his face, making him laugh as he informed us all in the most serious tone he could manage to, "Never start laughing when your dog does something like this.".  It was, Pete, the trainer, later told me, the first time he ever 'broke' during a class.  She also did 'Doggy Day-Care' at the same place and I remember parking and waiting to pick her up - there was a rule that you waited if someone was already there picking up their pet to keep chaos to a minimum.  I saw a large man getting his doberman pincer from the pen area where all the dogs were.  The doberman had a spiked collar and looked rather imposing and his owner got him into their large black SUV and drove away.  I walked up to Pete who was laughing and said, "Did you see that dog?" I nodded and he chuckled, "Loki had that dog cowed all day.  He followed her around like a puppy." That was Loki... not afraid to make her stand and get her own place.  

Loki: Those bright brown eyes

When I lived in Pennsylvania, I made a special bench for Loki so she could sit in the window and stare outside and keep track of the world.  I worked across the street so it was a good way for me to keep an eye on her.  Many people were familiar with her little face watching everything.  And I was grateful for her because that was my first apartment and really my first time on my own as an adult.  Having her there kept me from being too lonely.

In Kansas, all the maintenance staff of the estate area we lived in, knew Loki.  They would often stop whatever they were doing to come over and say hi to her.  At the very least they would wave.  Even if they were driving by, they stopped to greet her and she would be excited to see them every time.

A few years ago, when I was really sick and just stayed in bed, Loki climbed up on to the bed and lay beside me the whole time.  It was boring for her, I'm sure but she stayed there with me and I can honestly say that it helped immensely to have her warm fluffy body next to mine.

For all that she was a pain in the ass, she taught me a lot too.  Like patience.  That was a big one.  She taught me to remember to be calm.  She showed me how people interact with the world - because you can learn a lot about people by how they respond to dogs.  She was a companion for me and my Mom, but also for my Father.  When he would visit with me while I was at work, he and Loki would sit together on the couch and watch television.  He 'dropped' food for her and took her for walks.  She kept Mom company when I left to go on trips.  None of us were lonely with her.

At the age of 13 years, people were always shocked that she was 'an older dog'.  No one believed it - thinking she was much younger.  Loki was always a puppy in how she looked but also in how she behaved.  Even though she walked a bit slower than she used to, or had trouble jumping up on the bed - in her heart, Loki was young.

Loki sleeping before the fireplace in Nevada

Loki didn't like not knowing where we were.  If Mom and I were in separate rooms, she grew agitated, moving from one place to another.  She liked to keep an eye on us.  It was easiest when we were in the same room and she'd lay there, content that we were close.  She learned that barking at us loudly was not allowed and waking us up was to be done with a soft little 'wuff' which sounded more like someone clearing their throat politely than a bark, or simply staring at us till we felt the weight of it and woke up, rolling over to see two bright eyes gazing back.

Those same bright eyes greeted me every morning when I woke up and when I walked in the door.  She was always happy to see me.  No matter how hard or long the day was, knowing I was opening the door and going to see that fluffy face made it all better.  And at night, as we went to our rooms it was always with a, "Okay Loki, time for bed." and she'd get up and trot to her bed and climb in and go to sleep.  

Our lives had a pattern that involved her.  Waking up and walking her and feeding her.  Making sure we got home in time for her walk and getting her dinner and having an evening walk.  Sitting with her and scratching her.  Playing with her.  Checking to make sure she had water.  Taking her to the vet.  Getting her food.  Getting her treats.  Running around with her.  Taking her for rides in the car.  Boarding her when we had to go away. She was a part of our day to day.  

There is a Loki shaped hole that is missing that is larger than her actual size because she was such a big part of us.  It is hard to open my bedroom door and know that she won't be there to greet me.  I don't like opening the front door knowing that she won't be there wagging her tail.  Leaving, there is no one to say "I'll be back soon," to.  I won't feel her warmth by my foot as I sit in the living room.  I won't have her sitting next to me at dinner, her eyes eager and waiting to see if I drop anything.  Her body was small but her presence was huge and its left the house empty.  The rhythm of my life is off.

The last photo of Loki, taken the day before she passed

After Loki passed, the vet left us in the room with her to take our time in saying goodbye.  I didn't want to leave.  I stroked her soft hair over and over, because I knew, once I left, I wouldn't ever be able to do that again.  I wanted to memorize that feeling of her fur under my palm, between my fingers.

And now she's gone and its difficult.  Loki wasn't special in ways that could be counted by anyone else.  I don't care if no one else in the world liked her.  She was special to me and I loved her.  She gave me comfort, she made me laugh, she made me smile.  I can only hope that she knows how much she was loved.  That she was, in her heart and soul, a good girl. 

And I will be forever thankful that I got to have her in my life.

Out of the Refrigerator and into the Fire...

Most people know that I enjoyed the show Downton Abbey.  Aside from my usual love of all things British on television, I liked the characters and the unfolding drama in the changing history that was going on around the manor and its inhabitants.  On top of that, it was a visually rich program.

Then something happened and I knew I would never look at the show the same way again.

Anna, a character who had been unerringly good, loyal, smart, brave and quietly strong, was raped by the valet of a visiting guest.  It was a sudden and jarring moment in the program and though it was not shown, we were given her 'off screen' screams and the aftermath.

I was upset by this turn of events.  Not because of the rape, though it was upsetting and terrible, but rather that it had been done at all.  Friends on Facebook were treated to my annoyance and I got some feedback stating that it was dramatic and important and they sited links to the actors and creators talking about their reasons for it, as justification of some sort that they had this character raped.  (such as here: LINK) But it didn't make me feel less annoyed.  This plot point came out of left field in a drama, that had been, up to this point, original and fresh.  Yes, I was annoyed - I was annoyed that Anna was put through this and that it was a story line at all.  Why, of all the ways the writers could have gone, did they fall back on what is now becoming a tiresome trope for female character development?

It seems that for television, the standard go-to plot for women is to have them raped.  Oh, the reasons may vary of course: Make a character who is 'too good' have some dark shadow upon them (as in Anna's case), or to create compassion for a woman like Mellie Grant on "Scandal", or to make a female character more 'likable' such as Claire Underwood on "House of Cards", or, of course, to further the plot line of a male character...  But I'll speak about the last one a bit more later.

The other reason for the rape scene is also for the shock value.  Previews of the new episode will have quick cuts of the woman crying out, the fear and terror of her face, the shadow figure (sometimes) of her rapist and of course, the strong look of determination after, with the voice over promising, "Things will never be the same..."

The shock value may have been the reason for recent events on the very popular Game of Thrones. Which was horrific in and of itself because the director claims it was 'consensual' in the end.  Nikolaj Coster-Waldau who plays Jaime said he understood the scene, "It's one of those things where he's been holding it back for so long, and then out of anger he grabs her, and instincts take over, and he lets loose." Which, is basically saying he has no control over his body and so, he couldn't help himself.  Is this the reason this is given to make this okay?  He couldn't help himself?  So here, we have something that is just about considered rape, but is ok, because she gave in at the end, so it really wasn't rape.  Boys will be boys, men are animals with no control, he couldn't help himself... etc..."I couldn't help myself"is probably something a rapist would say as an excuse - but it doesn't make it better and it doesn't take away the fact that it was still rape. (Even George R.R. Martin has said this is not how the scene played out in the books)  http://www.aceshowbiz.com/news/view/00070294.html

There is no horrific abuse that men are subjected to as much as women are subjected to rape on television.  The writers fall back on this to create drama or interest or depth as if there is no other way for a woman to grow or develop: As if there is no other explanation for a female character to behave a certain way - like they are not fully functioning human beings capable of anger, rage, strength, fear, brains and brawn, without being scarred by the horror of rape.

I wonder if it is a subliminal thing that writers are unaware they are doing, but is a way for them to 'knock the woman down a peg or two'.  That they are afraid of a strong, successful or forceful woman to exist - that they worry about men seeing her and being threatened by her fictional existence.  So the woman must be hampered in some form or other.  She must be hurt in some way to say, "See?  Don't worry... no matter how self-sufficient she is, she can always be overpowered and harmed by a man.  No need to fear!"  Because, in the terms of television, the message becomes, no woman can have depth and stand tall all on her own.  No woman can have strength all on her own.  A strong female character is only digestible if she is wounded.

For writers, there appears to be a limited number of story lines they can choose from when they write about women:

The woman falls in love with the wrong man.
The woman falls in love with a good man.
The woman has to choose between love/family and her career.
The woman has a pregnancy scare.
The woman has a baby.
The woman has the abortion issue to deal with.
The woman has an abortion.
and of course - The woman is raped or molested.

Think of all the female characters you know and see how many of the above they have fallen into.

Its lazy.  Its tired.  And it desensitizes rape.

If they are going to address the subject, then they should address it.  Show all of it.  Show how Rape Culture makes the crime ten times worse for the victim and paints her as the cause of her rape.  Televise how the victim is interrogated by police who call her a liar and dissect what she was wearing, where she was, what she was drinking and ask her about her sex life.  Depict how the accusers are treated as sympathetic in the press and shown as the 'real victims'.  Reveal how the victim's personal life is spread out in public during the trial and how they have to live with this moment and have it define them.  And do it all without making it into a Lifetime movie, which has become a caricature of violence against women.

Show all of that instead of the quiet noble suffering of these women.  But the writers won't do that because its too uncomfortable to show the truth of rape.  It makes people uncomfortable to have the microscope too close so they'll continue to use it as a plot point that you can skim over when you don't have need of it anymore.

Instead of delving deeper these women will tell no one of their rape till its important to the story line for their significant other to learn the truth to react to - removing the focus from the woman and her struggle and giving it to the man.  You know the scene and how it plays out because it is repeated over and over.  The woman, who has held on to this dark secret finally tells her significant other.  There are tears, yelling, apologies, maybe something thrown across the room.   The music swells and is emotional and then there is staring off dramatically into middle distance.

There is a phrase that comes to mind here and its called "Women in Refrigerators" which refers to a common comic book trope where female characters are depowered (injured, killed, etc) as a plot device - mostly to further the male character's story line.  It was coined by Gail Simone and came up in reference to Green Lantern #54 where the main character, The Green Lantern, comes home to find his girlfriend, Alex DeWitt, has been been killed and stuffed in a refrigerator.

Going back to Downton Abbey, my annoyance with the Anna storyline continued...  Anna had tried to keep the whole thing secret but her husband, John found out about it.  Rather then point who had done it because a woman of her position was powerless in such situations and it would have marked her as soiled to press charges and have everything known, she tells John it was some man who broke in - a stranger.  Anna worries that if her husband finds out who raped her, he will kill the man and as he has already been accused of murder, he would definitely end up in jail.  John finds out anyway and later the man who raped Anna is killed, having fallen (though its suggested he was pushed) in front of a vehicle.  The idea that John was the one who killed the rapist is the continuing storyline now and we have removed the focus on the victim to her man... What will become of Mr. Bates now?  The fact that I read articles and interviews about this rape and how it was an important storyline for Anna and how she deals with, were all lost...  We now no longer have to think about it, because our focus is on her husband and what will happen to him?  How will Anna help him?  The rape is just another plot point in a drama.  Anna steps into the refrigerator.

To those that might argue that writing a strong woman is hard, first let me say this:  Shut up and grow up.

Scott & Bailey

Women are not such alien creatures that it is impossible to write an interesting, multi-layered female lead without falling back on having them raped.  If you need proof of that, I submit the British program, "Scott & Bailey".  (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scott_%26_Bailey)  It is about two female detectives (yes, TWO, not just one).  And these two women have to be the most well rounded, complicated, complex female characters on television that I have seen.  They have screwed up relationships, they curse, laugh, love, have sex, work hard, lead, get confused, cry, yell, fight and a hundred other things.... you know, act like human beings.  The truth is, for the most part, the two women leads could be men - there would be little difference except that they would meet in the men's room rather than the women's room every so often.  THAT is writing a strong female character - where it doesn't matter what the sex of the character is.  Human beings are complicated creatures and a woman is a human being!  Its not that difficult to wrap your head around.  They can be aggressive, hurt, scared, angry, vulnerable, strong and a bunch of other adjectives, just like men.  And I'll tell you this.  Neither Scott nor Bailey have been raped.  Yet, there they are, complex, strong women with dark secrets and wounds.

It is proof that lazy writing is just that.  Using rape as a plot point is tiresome and desensitizes the world.  If you aren't going to follow through on it and shed some real light on the horror of rape and the current Rape Culture, then you are doing a disservice to the women in the story and the women of the world.  Writers - wake up!  Women are interesting - just as interesting as men.  There are reasons for them to be interesting without the shadow of rape hanging over them.  Stop boiling down a female's depth to a horror forced upon her by a man and stop wounding our most interesting women characters.  And don't make rape just another plot point.

How To Be A Con Artist Part VIII

Continuing in my How To Be A Con Artist series... This series of blog entries is advice and insight that will hopefully help you as you work and sell at conventions.  If you want to see previous entries, you can see them here:

How To Be A Con Artist Part I
How To Be A Con Artist Part II
How To Be A Con Artist Part III
How To Be A Con Artist Part IV
How To Be A Con Artist Part V
How To Be A Con Artist Part VI
How To Be A Con Artist Part VII

Today, while there are a lot of panels and blogs about how to be a be a convention artist, like what you need and what you should do, how-to lists and such.  I would like to take a moment to share with you want NOT to do.  Specifically what not to do in the Artist Alley.

Where's the bathroom?

Each Artist Alley is set up differently.  Tables can be set up in grids, lines, rectangles, what-have-you - whatever will work for that particular convention, event or fair.  The basics though, will remain the same.  There will be a table and at least one chair.  Oh yeah... and other people around you.

Etiquette with customers is important, but so is etiquette with your fellow artists - These are people you will be seeing for the whole event, whether its for a day or a whole weekend.  And chances are, you will see them at another convention or event as they travel the circuit.  Don't think you won't see them ever again - your impression upon them will remain as they pack up and leave.

Many times, the space behind the table is, well to put it mildly, a bit limited.  But understand everyone else has about the same amount of space, so number 1 on the list is:


#1) Don't expect or take more room than you have been given.

Artist Alley set ups are designed to give an even amount of space to everyone.  Due to how things can be laid out, some might have a little more or a little less than others.  Just because you have more stuff than your neighbors have, doesn't entitle you to take up more space or have more space.  I have heard people complain that they have a lot of items to sell and so need more room compared to the person who may only have a single board of pins.  So what?  Did they pay for their table and space?  Did they pay the same as you?  Then they are entitled to the same amount of space as you are.  If you want more room, then buy another table.

Don't be this guy.  Just... don't.

You can ask nicely if they mind giving up some space to you, but accept the answer if they say no.

And don't 'inch' your way over into their area.  Its passive aggressive and rude.  Don't take up more of another artist's table, even if it doesn't look like they are using it.

If a person doesn't show up, then first speak to the convention staff about using the table for yourself.  They may just agree, or they may say no, having a time limit before giving up a table.  BUT, they may also make you pay to use the table.  Accept this as their business practice.  Don't just claim an empty table for yourself - first off, it is rude and second of all, the convention will take note that in their eyes, you are stealing the space and possibly a trouble-maker.  Go through the right channels.

This also goes for the area behind and around the table as well.  Not only should you keep supplies and boxes in your area, but your displays and such as well.  Don't put things in front of your table or to the side of your table unless you are sure they won't be in someone's way AND the convention staff has given you an 'OK' on it.  While you may think its all right and out of the way, others might not.

In some Artist Alleys, its already a bit of a squeeze and having to step over other people's belongings makes it worse.  And all it does is make you look rude and inconsiderate.  Make sure your signs, banners, boxes, supplies and displays are within a decent distance from your table and not in another artist's area.  If you need some space, ask, but expect that they may say no and respect that.

And there is no such thing as seniority in the Artist Alley.  Just because you've been doing Artist Alleys since 1952, doesn't mean you get preferential treatment or are more deserving than someone who is just starting out.  You may have a handle on things and sure, you may know a lot of con staff, but don't walk in expecting special treatment or expect a certain amount of respect from others.  I've been doing cons for over 10 years - I go in to each con expecting the same as everyone else.  I know people and yes, I've had favors done for me by friends, but NOT at my request.  Unless you are a professional artist who has been invited or is making a living at this, you are the same as the rest of us Artist Alley artists and there is no reason to think otherwise.

In regards to taking up space...


#2) Don't let costuming get out of hand.

There are many artist who also engage in cosplay and if you do, that's great!  It draws a crowd and makes people interested.  And since you are behind a table, you don't have to worry about walking around in uncomfortable shoes or being in the heat (or cold) of the day.  What you should worry about is how the massive extended wings on your back keep hitting the artist next to you when you turn and knocking over the display behind you every time you have to go for a wee.  Large skirts look great in a Steampunk costume, but less so when you keep bumping into your neighbor's table.

This isn't anti-cosplay.  Its be-aware cosplay.  Everyone can be understanding, but as a artist/seller, a person's focus is meant to be on making sales and customers, not getting bumped into or hit - yet again - by the person next to you or behind you, or resetting your displays after they get knocked over repeatedly.

So when planning your cosplay when you are an artist set to be behind your table, keep others around you in mind.  Of course, even without a costume, be aware of passing by others and moving around - try not to hit your neighbor's tables, displays or them...  And if you find you are doing so over and over, see if its because of you, or because they are taking up space unnecessarily... and speak to them about making some concessions or compromise on both sides about it.


#3) Don't leave a mess!

This is pretty simple.  Clean up after yourself.  I've been in Artist Alley's where you would think there had been a frat party with the amount of garbage left on the floor behind the table.  There isn't a reason for it.

Most Artist Alleys have garbage cans somewhere - whether its inside or outside.  Find them!  Or, as I recommended in Part VI of my series, have a bag with you for garbage that you then take at the end of the day to discard later.  While some might say, "Hotel and/or convention staff will clean up or pick up my trash" that doesn't make it better for the people around you who have to see it and/or walk over/around it.  That big old pizza box you have behind your chair?  I have to jump over it it get to the bathroom - thanks.  Or your drink bottles?  Yeah, its fun to constantly be kicking those across the floor.

"So... the convention staff will clean this up... right?"

Personally, its gross.  I don't care how old you are.  Grow up and clean up after yourself.  You are in public and most of the artists are trying to present themselves as professionals.  Consider this:  Your table is your store.  While your art is a reflection of you so is your space.  Even customers will notice a sloppy shop.  And really, do your Artist Alley neighbors need to be smelling the remains for your lunch left overs?  Yes, sometimes you can't go and throw out your trash right away, but don't leave it overnight!

Another scenario I have seen as an example of why not throwing your trash away is wrong is this:  The spilled soda or drink cup on the floor.  Ruined product.  Ruined supplies.  Ruined personal belongings.  I'm sorry isn't going to replace any of the items - are you going to pay for them?  And even if nothing had gotten damaged, the floor is sticky and gross for the rest of the convention.  And as a note for outside events?  A bunch of garbage is going to attract flies, ants and bees - not exactly the type of thing you want buzzing around your table or crawling into your stuff while you are trying to make sales and neither does your fellow artisans.

Throw out your garbage and keep the area neat as much as possible for yourself and your neighbors.

Trash may repel, but music is a good way to draw crowds to your table and the bonus is that it will help move your day along as it entertains.  Lights and flashing signs will pull a crowd as well, but there is a limit to how well it works, which leads to...


#4) Don't play music too loudly and keep flashing lights to a decent level or minimum.

Most people in the Artist Alley, don't mind music playing next to them.  Especially if it isn't repetitious or annoying.  Its entertaining and may break up the monotony of a slow day.  Even lights aren't a big deal and can be a pretty eye-catching thing.

Loud music?  That's another issue.  Loud, intrusive, base pounding, thumping music is more than a little irritating.  Not only can it be annoying, but for some people sensitive to sound, it can grate on them and become extremely uncomfortable.  Artist Alleys can be pretty loud already, with the reverberation or poor sound, plus hundreds of conversations, so hearing your voice while talking to a customer can be a challenge - Having loud music to compete with makes it worse.  Add to that, lack of sleep, dehydration and the stress of a show, and you can create a major headache.

"I'd sell you the print.... but... the light.. it beckons..."

The same goes for flashing lights.  While you may not see them because they are not facing you, they will be hitting your neighbors.  Imagine trying to sleep with a flickering light!  Flashing bulbs or swirling colors can become an eye irritant.  And again, for some, this is a triggering issue that may disturb them and be an extreme discomfort.

I would also add any videos you are playing and have on repeat - Not only is the repetition aggravating, but the video player flashing and going over the same thing repeatedly will grate.  Turn it off every once in a while or have a second video or something to play.  YOU don't see it, but the people across from you will be watching it over and over and over again.  If they decide to kill you, that video will be prime evidence in their defense.

Artist Alley is a room of people all trying to gain the buyer's attention, but many are in a limited space and very close quarters.  Blasting music and throbbing lights become worse and more intrusive to the people around you.  So, try to be considerate.  If you are worried, ask your neighbors if the music is too loud or annoying.  Give them the option to ask you to turn it down if there is a problem.

Now, speaking of things that make noise...


#5) Don't make constant noise with your items at your table.

Some sellers have squeaky toys or horns as part of their wares.  These are great items and are a lot of fun, but the artist then feels its necessary to constantly be using them to draw buyers to their table.  After all, it is a major selling point of the product.  The problem is, hearing your squeaky toy repeatedly squeaking all day can and will drive your neighbors nuts.  Its only cute at first.  And as I stated above, it may cause physical discomfort in others, especially some specific sounds.

Help Artists Keep Calm

No one is saying don't show off your nifty item, just be judicious in your demonstrations.  If you have people eyeing your wares, it is a good time to show them the added bonus of the noisemaker.  That's your 'clincher' in your sale.  Constantly making noise with your items may draw people to you, but most likely they are there to play with the product, not necessarily buy... and its just as easy to have a sign next to the noisemaker that says, "I SQUEEK!" or "I HONK!" or what have you.

Also try be careful about the customers that just come up to 'just make noise' with your product.  Man-handling should be kept to a minimum anyway, but this falls back into annoying the people around you.  Obviously, its difficult to control what others do, but its not that hard to try to be considerate to those around you... I should mention, this sort of thing also goes for items that smell at your table, like candles or incense.  Make sure to ask others if they have a sensitivity to scents before lighting anything up - though you shouldn't be doing that anyway, since most conventions wouldn't allow it.

Continuing on the theme of making noise...


#6) Don't be a carnival barker.

At a convention years ago, I was in the Artist Alley and the girl next to me was yelling and calling out to everyone walking by:
 
     "Help a starving artist!"
     "Buy my stuff!"
     "Give me money for art!"
     "Cheap stuff!"

A small percentage of people stopped by, a very small percentage, but the majority not only didn't stop by, they actively avoided her table, giving it a wide berth.  And in that widening of space between them and her table, they ended up avoiding MY table as well.  Not only did she lose sales.  So did I.

Also... Don't be this guy.  Just... don't.

Yelling at people, all of them constantly like you're a carnival barker, won't bring you customers in the amount you want.  Especially what she was yelling.  It makes people uncomfortable.  Most people like to browse and look over items, but they can't do that if they don't come close enough to the table to see.  Yes, some are looking for specific items, but in their browsing, they may come across things they hadn't expected and decide to purchase.  Being called to or yelled at makes them pull away and they not only miss out on your stuff, but your neighbor's.

Its too aggressive and makes you seem desperate.  While not everyone is confident in their work, you don't want to shout that out to the world.  If you don't have confidence in your work, why should anyone else?

On top of that... It is annoying to the people around you and off putting.  I sat next to that girl, frustrated and trying my hardest to smile and keep focused on my customers.  Her shouting interrupted conversations and made it difficult to do business. What made it worse was that she would shout at customers at my table and they would leave.  I eventually gave her a dirty look when she'd done it for like the 5th or 6th time and she got the message about harassing my customers, but it didn't stop her from harassing the people walking through.

Your best bet if you want to call out to people is to watch them as they come by and smile pleasantly.  If you make eye contact or nod, or acknowledge each other, then you can encourage them to come closer.  Sometimes people are shy and being nicely invited or encouraged will make them feel comfortable to approach - especially if they don't feel like you are going to pounce on them and badger them into buying something.

Be available to them.  Don't attack them.

And even if you aren't loudly calling people over, being sneaky and drawing customers away from another person's table isn't cool either.  Listening in to conversations between another artist and their potential customer, only to try to convince that customer to come over to you, is another rude behavior that no one likes.  Stealing customers in this way makes sure other artists know you are untrustworthy and not someone they want to be around - and trust me, you want friends in the Artist Alley.  Wait for the customer to move on from your neighbor and then mention, "I heard you were looking for this item, I have something you might like." (Even better everyone - if you hear a customer is looking for something and you know someone in the Artist Alley has it, recommend that artist!  First off, it makes you a decent person so good on you!  Secondly, it makes YOU a trustworthy individual and the customer remembers that.  Its part of good customer service and good business in what is, essentially, a small community)

The other part of this is being careful about using people to stand in the aisle with a sign or directing them to your table.  Its one thing to have someone there to make sure people know where you are in the Artist Alley, but another when that person is blocking the way or preventing people from easily getting by or causing other people to lose business.  Most times, a person in the aisle isn't a big deal, but when it gets crowded, one person blocks up everything and this will cause people to avoid trying to get by and now the people on the other side have lost potential customers.  YOU may not care, but trust me, THEY do and a complaint may be filed against you.  Also, its a fire hazard.  You are better off, if you know where you are going to be before hand, printing off flyers with your position in the Artist Alley and having your friend hand them out.

And speaking of friends...


#7) Don't let friends congregate behind your table (or in front of it).

Meeting and hanging out with friends at a convention is normal.  Some people you only get to see at conventions or events.  I have a whole group of friends that I knew only through the cons and only got to see them there (though we keep in touch otherwise).  Its also normal to want to talk and catch up with them.  Since you are at your table, usually the only way that happens is if they come to visit you in the Artist Alley, which is fine... till they cause a clog in the aisle and/or block the table next to you.

Being seen is one of the most important aspects of being in the Artist Alley and a group of people standing in front of a table destroys business.  Make sure your friends understand that and after some conversation, make arrangements to meet up somewhere else later on.

Another aspect of this is the "Hold my stuff" situation.  Since you are anchored to the table, your friends will probably consider you the obvious choice to hold their bags of Dealer's Room buys, costume items and general stuff so they are able to continue free-ranging through the convention.  That's great, but be aware of your space (going back to #1 on the list here) and don't let it start to gather behind your table.  Yes, its part of #1, but also, YOU are still there to do business right?  Having all that to store and be responsible for isn't what you signed on to do in the Artist Alley.

"Hold your bag? Yeah, I got room back here."

Also, you certainly don't want to start a camp behind you either.  The last thing the area behind tables should look like is a refugee camp with people hanging out with their suitcases and belongings.  I've seen it happen and been annoyed by bags I've tripped over or people sitting on the floor, taking up whatever space there happened to be.  Outside of the normal irritation, it creates more noise and makes doing business difficult.  Its also a security issue.  Artists have product and money behind the table - the last thing you want is a bunch of random people with access to the area.

In regards to having friends sitting behind the table.. one, maybe two might not be bad, but don't let them all come back there to hang out or regroup before their next event.  Its rude and not fair to the other artists.  Most conventions have 2 chairs and part of the reason for that is that 2 people behind the table is a decent amount of space without infringing on the space of someone else.  Everyone paid the same price for the same space.  Your friends don't suddenly give you priority to space and chairs.  And even if a single person has an extra chair at their table, don't assume you can just take it.  Ask first and respect them if they say no - don't 'steal' it later on.  They paid for that chair and table just like you and are entitled to it - whether they use it or not.


#8) Don't bad mouth artists to customers.

I don't think I need to explain this further, but if you are confused, I'll lay it out for you.

I mentioned previously that as you travel cons, you'll see a lot of familiar faces and eventually, word will get around.  If you are bad mouthing an artist due to legitimate reasons, then you should be speaking to con staff about them, not customers.  If there is really a problem the staff needs to be dealing with it and handling it.

If spreading a bad word to customers about another person is your business practice, you need a new business practice or better product.

Obviously we artists can be horrible gossips (it happens... a slow sale period and sitting around at your tables... its probably going to occur) and so word will get around about who is doing what and how.  We all know the horror stories and the issues with each other.  The customers shouldn't be hearing about it and certainly shouldn't be hearing it from you.

"He can't even draw a decent Inuyasha!"

The only time I've seen this happen where I might find it acceptable is art thieves.  If you know - for a fact - that someone stole another person's art or is reselling another artists work in Artist Alley and/or Dealer's room, informing customers is important - they should know who they are dealing with.  But YOU SHOULD HAVE ALREADY INFORMED CONVENTION STAFF as well.  There is no excuse for art theft and that is something the artist community has to stand against in all its forms.

Overall, you can read the main message here in all of these.  Its about being considerate to those around you.  Be considerate of their physical space, their personal space and/or issues.  I know the argument could be made that if a person has an issue with you, they could just say something, but everyone has varying levels of comfort when dealing with confrontations.  Maybe speaking to someone about an issue they have, is not easy for them?  Maybe they are very confrontational and a simple question becomes a fight.  Maybe YOU don't take criticism well?  So why create a problem when it isn't necessary?

Be a decent person.  Be clean, shower, keep your area neat, don't take up more than your share of space and don't harm the sales of other people around you.  You don't want a negative reputation or to create a negative atmosphere.  Artist Alley should be fun for everyone - its not just about the sales, but about a large group of people who love something, sharing that love for a time period in a space together.

In the end, I guess there is one 'Do' on this list and that's this: Do be respectful of yourself and others.

How To Be A Con Artist Part VII

Continuing my How To Be A Con Artist series...  You can read the previous installments here:

How To Be A Con Artist Part I
How To Be A Con Artist Part II
How To Be A Con Artist Part III
How To Be A Con Artist Part IV
How To Be A Con Artist Part V
How To Be A Con Artist Part VI

This time I'll be addressing something you probably hear a lot about but don't necessarily think about - Convention Safety.

There are often panels discussing this issue and hints and tips in con books, but I doubt people really pay attention like they should.  We live in a world where we think things happen to other people... till it happens to us.  Most of this is common sense, but we forget in the excitement of attending a convention, or thinking about our table, or paperwork, getting our stuff unloaded and the general buzz of the whole event.  It doesn't mean you shouldn't have fun and be excited, but you should always be aware of things.  A lot of this is going to sound like basic safety issues, but its important!

Have a cell phone fully charged and at hand always.  This might seem obvious, but how many times have you picked up your phone and found it near the end of its battery?  Or have to dig it out of the bottom of a bag?  Always have it nearby and fully charged, ready to use quickly.  It should be near at hand in the car, while walking to and from the convention and while at your table.  When you go out, have it in a place you can grab it fast - not just for yourself but should you witness something or see someone needs help.  Have the phone number of the hotel you are staying at in your phone so that if you get lost, you can call them and have them help direct you back.  Also, have the first listing in your phone be an emergency contact so if something happens to you the first responders can contact that person without scrolling for a number in your phone.

BE AWARE.  Always be aware of your environment - where you are and what you are doing and who is there.

Don't go to a convention alone (if you can do that).  There are a lot of reasons for this.  Having a table buddy isn't just to keep you from being bored.  They can offer a sense of safety and security during your weekend.  A table buddy will share the room with you, the car ride with you and will go out with you in the evening.  All good things!  They will also deter anyone who is looking to make a victim of you.  Sadly, there are those who attend conventions looking for victims - the same as any other venue or gathering.  They look for someone on their own who they can isolate.  Having someone with you makes you less of a target.  So, if you can, travel with someone, or a group to the convention.  Safety in numbers is a real thing.

Don't be distracted by your stuff.  Don't be bogged down with bags.  If you are on your own and have to handle your many table items AND your luggage, it's easy to be overwhelmed or distracted with all your belongings.  Getting your things into the convention or hotel from car and back again can be difficult.  If you can't get it right into the lobby, then you may be forced to walk across a parking lot or through an underground parking facility or even down the street.  My first recommendation would go back to the last post I made and get a large rolling chest to lessen the amount of things you are carrying.  The less items you are juggling, the better.  The second recommendation is to not be so focused on your belongings, that you aren't paying attention to what's happening around you.  If you can, have your cell phone out and to your ear - either pretend to or actually be talking to someone on a handsfree unit.  This will make you undesirable as a target.

Be safe in your car.  Look into your car before getting in - at the passenger side floor and in the back seat.  If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door.  Or better, don't park near big vans.  Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle and the passenger side.  If someone is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to go back to the convention center or hotel and ask someone to walk you back out or wait a bit till they leave.  Don't just sit in your car after getting in.  Predators can be watching and will see this as an opportunity to get into your car.  As soon as you get into your car, lock the doors and leave.  - I apologize if this sounds dark and scary and a little paranoid, but its better to be a little paranoid and safe.

Walk with confidence.  Keep your head up, swing your arms and stand straight up.  Confidence and purpose!

Don't give money or keys to anyone walking up to your car when you pull in to the facility, saying they are an attendant or its for a meter.  Parking attendants are either in a booth or small building.  There will be signs posted on what you have to do if you need to pay for parking and how much it is and there will be meters to pay, not people wandering about the lot collecting keys and/or money.

Don't be in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Don't walk alone in an alley or bad neighborhood during the day or at night.  Don't assume because the sun is out, that you are safe going anywhere you want.  Don't rely on a busy area to be safe either.  Don't be in isolated areas of town.  If you get lost, this is when your having the hotel's phone number in your cell will be helpful.  Call the hotel, explain you are lost, give them the nearest street name and have them direct you back to them.  Or, use your gps to get back to the hotel.

Carry mace, or a pocket knife, or scissors.  Scissors or a cutting knife for an artist in the artist alley are just supplies, so you shouldn't have trouble having them - just don't have them out so you don't get in trouble.  Mace in your pocket is valuable and if you need it, its better to deal with explaining why you have it to a police officer or security guard after you use it on someone attacking you than the alternative.

Stick with people you know.  One of the fun aspects of attending a convention is meeting new people and making new friends.  I have a whole bunch of friends I've made over the years who have become really good friends to me and I love dearly.  But when going out, have people you know with you - even one - if you are going out with a bunch of new people in the group.  If the new people suggest you going off with them alone, don't.  Just because they know someone you know, doesn't mean you are safe from harm.

Stay safe at parties.  Room parties are common at conventions and you'll probably get invited.  Its best to make sure people you know will be there before attending, but if you are on your own, you need to be very careful and safe.  When you walk in, be aware of the vibe, don't let the door close behind you till you get a sense of the party.  Listen to your gut.  If you feel uncomfortable, leave.  You don't owe anybody anything.  Don't worry about being polite.  If you are at a party, alone or with friends, be aware of what you are drinking.  Don't let your drink out of your hands.  Make sure YOU are getting your drink from the bottle directly so no one has a chance to put something in it.  Be aware of alcohol being put in it.  I'm not going to be foolish and assume that everyone is on the up and up and not drinking when not being of legal age, but don't be stupid.  If you don't want to drink, then DON'T DRINK.  Don't let anyone force you to or make you feel bad for not having a drink.  Don't drink to excess, even while with your friends.  It makes it too easy for someone to lead you away or remove you from your friends.  And its too easy for you to make poor choices.

Stay safe when out at night.  Going out at night in new cities is always exciting and fun, but don't get caught up in it all and forget to be aware of where you are and where you are going and who you are with.  If you are out, again, be careful of your drinking.  Be watchful of your drink when you're out to make sure no one puts anything in it.  Stay with your friends!  Don't let new people pull you away or try to take you somewhere else.  Don't worry about insulting people or hurting feelings.  Your safety is more important that hurt feelings.  If someone is giving you a hard time, find an employee of the place where you are at and tell them.  Also, don't assume that just because you aren't alone you are not in danger.  A group is less likely to have a problem, but that doesn't mean you can walk anywhere you want.  Stick to lighted busy areas - remember the wrong place, wrong time above...

If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be doing anyway) and you find yourself being followed or chased, scream "FIRE!" and not help.  People don't want to get involved when people yell "Help", but "Fire" draws their attention.  And RUN!  Run yelling fire to draw people's attention to you.

And be aware that it is dark!  Cross streets carefully and look both ways.  Drivers may not see you in badly lit areas.

Always take the elevator instead of the stairs.  Stairwells are terrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.  Do not get on an elevator if there is someone who gives you a bad vibe.  Better to wait for the next one.  Do not stand in the back corners of the elevator if you can help it.  Be near the front, by the doors, ready to get off.  If you are riding up to a higher level floor and on the trip up someone who makes you uncomfortable or gives you a bad vibe gets on, get off.

Have a box that locks your money up/keep valuables locked up.  I know many people use a bag, or even their pocket for money from the table, but its better to have a box that locks instead.  Don't take it out with you when you go out for dinner - its too easy to lose and makes you a target.

If you're alone, make friends with your neighbors in the Artist Alley.  If you don't have a table buddy, make friends with those around you.  This will help out when there is a need to go to the bathroom - they can watch your table for you.  They might be able to get food for you on a food run.  Better, if someone gives you a hard time, you aren't alone there as your new friends will step in to have your back.

Do not assumer someone is safe alone because of their gender or build or their age... Crazy comes in small, cute packages just as easily as big, hulking ones - Sarah Martinez

Don't think that a woman is any less likely to cause harm than a man.  There are plenty of stories of a woman who is accused of many cases of abuse and molestation.  She insinuates herself with boys and girls, pretending to be a friend, gains personal information, then uses it against her victim.  When accused, she claims she isn't doing anything wrong and they are over reacting.  Females can be dangerous to others and can cause harm.

Don't think that a man is any less likely to be harmed than a woman.  Young men can be victims, so its not safe to assume that you, as a male or one who identifies as male, is safer than those that identify as female.  Any gender is in danger from any other gender.

If you dress up and cosplay, be aware, there are repercussions - Know how to handle situations.  THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT YOU SHOULDN'T COSPLAY OR CAN'T WEAR WHAT YOU WANT.  Cosplay is NOT consent.  That doesn't mean people won't be creepers, won't harass you, won't disrespect you, won't touch you inappropriately or without consent, won't take rude pictures and won't post those pictures on the net.  Unfortunately, that is the reality of the situation we are in.  I love cosplay and I'm amazed at every convention at the array of costumes, the display of skills and effort that is shown...  So if you decide to wear a costume, be aware that there are people who will want to belittle you, make fun of you and creep on you.  Don't let them.  Be confident and strong!  If you are being harassed, remove yourself from the situation immediately and find con staff or security.  Be loud about it so others know what's happening and hear what is going on.  Many cosplayers get lured by interviewers who are only using the opportunity to harass or embarrass a person.  Have answers ready to shut them down if necessary and be prepared to walk away.  Don't allow the "I'm only joking" or "You're over reacting" comments to keep you there. And don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing. You don't owe them anything.  Don't let them make you feel guilty.  If someone touches you, you are allowed to yell at them and say, "NO!"  Again, find con staff or security.  If they are touching you without permission or inappropriately, chances are, they are doing it to others.

At your table in costume, be mindful that you will be asked to have pictures taken.  This will draw your attention away from your table and your items.  Remember what you are there for and that you have to always keep an eye on your Artist Alley table.

Do not go up to anyone's room that you don't know.  "Hey, I have to grab something from my room real quick, wanna come with me?"  If you don't know that person, the answer is or should be, "No."  You can wait for them in the lobby or some other public area for them to grab whatever they need and meet you back there.  There is never a good reason to go to the room of someone you don't know, alone.  Even if they need help getting stuff, it doesn't have to be you.  We are more afraid of being considered impolite than listening to our own gut telling us to be safe.

Don't go to isolated areas with people.  The truth is, there really isn't any good reason to go down a dark alley, an isolated corner or some place alone with people.  Even if you need time to be somewhere quiet you can probably just go to a bathroom stall for some alone time - most of the time.  There are quiet areas that don't have to be so out of the way, that you put yourself in danger.  Don't allow others to draw you to these places if you don't know and trust them.

Meet Art Directors or professionals in public places, like a coffee bar or restaurant if they want to discuss your portfolio further.  As a young artist, or someone starting out, you want to make an impression on Art Directors or professionals you meet at conventions.  There are usually a few opportunities to show your portfolio to them and have it reviewed.  Some will want to talk further with you about your work in a less, loud/busy area than a convention center floor or artist alley and that's fine.  DO NOT MEET THEM IN THEIR ROOM.  I won't go into horror stories or tales - you've heard them before.  Its the casting couch situation and while that may not be the case when its suggested to you - they might be legitimately interested in your portfolio - why put yourself in a vulnerable position?  You can suggest meeting at a restaurant, the hotel lobby, a coffee shop or some other place where it will be quieter.  There is no reason to go to their room.

Take your meds at the time you are supposed to and have any allergy or special medications on hand if necessary.  Don't allow the attention of the convention and customers to distract you from taking care of yourself and taking the medication you need.  If you have allergies, have your medications or epi-pen handy just in case.  If you have a medical bracelet, be wearing it!  You have to be responsible for taking care of yourself - meaning have your medications and take them.  Have water and drink it.  Eat, shower and sleep!  Being sickly or sleepy is unsafe!

If you are being harassed or followed through a con, find con staff or security.  If you either feel like someone is following you, or you are having a creeper harassing you, find someone who works for the convention or the hotel.  Inform them of your situation.  Chances are, before you even start speaking the person will dart off, afraid of getting in trouble, but make the staff aware of the person.  At the very least, you may help yourself get the target off your back.  If you are outside of the convention and think you are being followed do any of the following: Call someone and speak loudly to them.  Tell them you think you are being followed by someone.  Get somewhere where there are people, like a store, restaurant or shop and go inside.  Tell them you think you are being followed and ask for help (if you don't have a phone).  Or find a friendly stranger or group of people and tell them (granted I know this is iffy too, but this is assuming you don't have a phone with you - its about finding someone who can help and doing the best you can).  Ask them for help.  Try to get a good look at who you think is following you so you can give a description.  Call the police and inform them of your situation, where you are and be ready to tell them the description of the person.

Even if you are sharing a room with someone/others, have money for a room with you.  Yes, you share a room to cut the cost, but things happen.  Sometimes you think you are friends with someone, but then find out you aren't, or they were expecting things you weren't.  Stuff happens.  If you are sharing a room with someone or others and find things have changed, you don't want to be stuck with no place to sleep.  Its a terrible trap to be stuck with no where to go - or being forced to remain in an unsafe situation in your room.  Don't allow yourself to be stuck.  Have money for a room if necessary so you are never caught or trapped where you don't want to be.  I'd recommend not rooming with someone you don't know - again, you might be looking to save money, but make sure you know whose sharing your personal space with you.

Don't assume the area around a convention is safe.  I could share a few stories about kids running around the Baltimore Convention Center thinking they would be safe from any danger.  Unfortunately, they weren't.  As busy as it was with people, it was still dangerous.  Just because there is a convention in a convention center or a hotel, that doesn't give the building or area a safety bubble.  You are still in public and there is still a level of danger there.  This goes back to being aware!

If something happens, report it!  Sadly, even with all the precautions in the world, something may happen.  Unfortunately, many don't report it.  This is the hard part.  TELL SOMEONE.  Tell the con staff, tell security, tell the police, tell convention/hotel staff.  Tell someone.  I know there are stories of people who were brushed off or hushed up - don't let that stop you.  Don't let it get brushed under the rug as just another story.  Whether you are mugged, molested, raped, hit...  anything... Tell someone and report it.

If you see something, say something.  I've had some discussions about safety with others and I often find it all falls onto the potential victim to be safe and take control of their safety.  Yes, we can tell people not to steal, hurt, rape or harm others, but that still seems to happen... so what can be done?  I've come to the conclusion that one thing missing from these discussions is the responsibility of everyone else.  There are too many times we turn a blind eye to things happening around us - whether out of fear, discomfort or the "I don't want to get involved" feeling.

I was in a situation where a man was being aggressive with me.  He had his arms around me and my arms were pinned as he was trying to kiss me.  I was leaning back as far as I could saying "NO!" loudly.  This was in broad daylight on a campus like area with people around us.  There were plenty of people around who saw this happening.  Finally I threatened to knee him in the groin (I wasn't feeling confident enough to actually do it, because I felt like I had lead him on or something, but that's a whole other discussion) and he let me go, laughing it off.

Any one of the people walking by could have said something, even a "hey, leave her alone." and stopped what was happening.  It doesn't always take much.  Just having a witness intervene can stop an attacker or aggressor.  If you see someone creeping on another, tell them to back off or ask the person you think is the victim, "Is this person bothering you?"  On the street, if you see someone in trouble, pull out your cell phone and yell out, "I've called the police!" You don't have to be close if you are worried about getting hurt.  Call attention to what you are seeing and it will help.  Attackers don't want witnesses and will more likely run than confront you.  Use your phone's video camera to record for proof...  If you see a cosplayer being harassed, step in and say something.  Turn the attention on the harasser so the victim can feel empowered!  Isolation is the largest issue in these situations.  Victims usually feel alone and helpless.  Don't let others feel that way if you see something happening.  Help them gain control of the situation and get them to con staff or security if necessary.

If you are at a party or bar and you see someone who is clearly drunk and not in control of the situation, watch out for them.  Don't allow them to be lead away or lured away by others who are taking advantage.  Even if they claim to be a friend, try to make sure that person is really a friend and not a person the disadvantaged victim just met. You'd be surprised by how many victims are left by their 'friends' at bars when they are in no condition to take care of themselves.  Step in and tell the other person to leave the drunk person alone - The person may have been drugged.  You don't know.  Don't let them be taken away.  If you see a person having an anxiety attack and someone comes in to 'help', make sure they know the person and keep an eye on the 'helper'.  Always be aware of what's happening to these people who are in a vulnerable position.

If something happens and someone is hurt, point to someone specifically and tell them to call 911.  And then you do it as well.  In most situations like that, everyone assumes someone has called 911, but no one has.  Time is of the essence when there is an injury and the longer the delay in getting medical help, the worse it is for the injured.

I think this all covers not only con safety, but safety in general.  Trust your gut and instincts.  If you are getting a bad feeling, its for a reason and you have to listen to yourself.  Have your fully charged cell phone and make smart decisions about what you are doing, who you are with and where you are going!

While all of the above sort of sucks the fun out of the convention, don't let it.  It all falls down into this: Be aware!

So having said all that... have a safe and happy convention season!

My next blog can be found here: How To Be A Con Artist Part VIII

How To Be A Con Artist Part VI

Its been a little while since I've posted anything in my "How To Be A Con Artist" series, so here we go again...  I'll remind you that when I post about this, its just advice to help out others who are traveling to conventions and showing their art and trying to sell and hopefully it will make someone's life easier and answer a question they might have.

Please be sure to read the previous entries which I've linked here:
How To Be A Con Artist Part I
How To Be A Con Artist Part II
How To Be A Con Artist Part III
How To Be A Con Artist Part IV
How To Be A Con Artist Part V

In this blog entry, I'll be trying to cover something that may cause some of us stress when we prepare for a convention: What to bring!

Everyone has different supplies that they need to help with their set-up along with the displays and the items they actually sell, but you should always be prepared for the what ifs.  There is nothing better than the feeling of being at a show where you feel completely prepared for the day, but the times that this happens are rare, so whatever you can do to help yourself out, the better!  I've broken this up a bit, so it isn't just one long forever list and some reasons why you should have them with you (in case it isn't clear).

Before I get into the lists, there are two things you should always have with you.  One is for your health and one is for your business:

Water: Dehydration is a constant danger at conventions.  To keep yourself healthy and functioning, you NEED to have water with you.  Have a couple of bottles with you or one that you can refill.
Business cards/post cards: No matter what, you need a card with your contact information for people to take.  It is one of the most basic of business practices.  It should have your web address (multiple sites if you have them) of where your work can be seen or your web comic etc.  It should also have some form of contact information, like an email address or a business phone number (I never recommend putting your personal phone number on a business card).

Business cards and/or postcards are essential at your table!

So let's start out with the basics.  I kind of think of it as the things you might need to have with you when you start school.  Its the supplies that will help get you through the day and are a portable office.

Basics

Pencils: You never know when you'll need one.  These can be good old #2 pencils, mechanical pencils or any drawing pencil.
Pens: You should have a few extras with you no matter what.  Black or blue, or both.  You may have to fill out paperwork or need to write something up and you should have them for your receipts anyway.
Scissors: Its amazing how many times you suddenly need them when you don't have them.
Masking tape/Duct tape: It's always best to have tape handy just in case something tears or you need to rig something up quickly.  It's great also to keep people from tripping over wires.
Glue pen: This is another thing you find you may suddenly need and it's better to have it with you.  I prefer glue pens to bottles because the chance of spillage and drying out is less.  Better to have no sticky mess to clean up.
X-acto knife/utility knife: Most cons have rules about sharp items, but these are tools and if you need to cut something with some finesse you'll need them.  Just don't have them laying out.
Post-it notes: This is one of those things I find helpful if I need to remind myself of something during the con, like a person's name or to mark something a person is buying and will be right back for.  They also work as 'quick signage' should I need them.
Highlighter: Just one of those things I like to have in the box.
Small ruler: An oddity, but I've needed it a few times to measure out space on the table for set up or to figure something out on the display.
Blank price tags: Sometimes tags fall off or I might want to put something on sale or realize I want to change a price.  
Small tools/multi-tool/leatherman: You should always have tools with you for a just in case moment. Sometimes it's useful for your displays, but there are times when you find a screwdriver is needed. Better to be prepared.
Notebook/Sketchbook: I find it's great to have one handy to write down information - whether it's contact info, an order to fulfill at home or notes to myself about the convention, hotel or the artist alley for future reference.  Besides, you're an artist - you should ALWAYS have a sketchbook handy to draw when you get the chance.

So, that's the basics that you should have with you.  Almost all of that can fit into a small box or container that can be tossed in with the rest of your stuff for the table without taking up a lot of space.  It should always be packed and I never remove this stuff from my convention supplies - this never gets used at home or anywhere so that I don't forget to repack it by accident.

Vendor Packet

In previous blog posts, I've mentioned having a folder of your convention paperwork.  When you get to the convention and check in, don't throw the folder away!  Those papers are still important and should be kept with you.  To this packet you'll be adding your vendor/convention information, like a map of the venue, Artist Alley hours/tear down times as well as locations to bathrooms and food etc.  Keep the program in there and the time-table... All in one place if you need it.

Money Box

Your Money box and items!

You should have a small money box of some sort to hold your money.  This should be something secure that you carry with you all the time.  NEVER LEAVE YOUR MONEY BOX/BAG AT YOUR TABLE!  It doesn't matter if the AA is locked at night or closed.  You keep your money with you and take it back to your room.  DO NOT TAKE YOUR MONEY BOX/BAG OUT WITH YOU IF YOU LEAVE YOUR ROOM!  Take the extra time to get back to your room to put your things away.  The last thing you want to do is go out for dinner and forget the money box/bag somewhere.  In your money box/bag there are a few things you should have to be ready for the show:

Change: Obviously, you want to have change to give for those paying with cash.  Most people will have $20's from the ATM so you want to be ready for that.  I usually have mostly ones, some fives, and a few tens (2 minimum).  I don't usually have coin change with me, though it depends on if I have to deal with sales tax or not.
Receipts: Because I always handle my convention Artist Alley time as a business, I give receipts with my sales.  This is a good way for me to add up sales at the end of the day and to keep track of things.  It is also good back-up at tax time should I need it.  Also, it makes you look legitimate at cons to the customers.  This is also a good way for me to deal with a theft.  If you don't have a receipt, you obviously didn't buy that from me (I put receipts in the bag).  It's a good habit to get into - yes it takes time, but its important as a professional artist making sales to have a paper trial.
Counterfeit Bill Pen: While it doesn't happen often that a wave of counterfeit bills will come through a con, it is possible and at the end of the day YOU are the one that loses the money since the bank won't take your fake bills.  I don't use it on every bill, just 20's, 50's and 100's.  It would be easy for someone to walk in early in the con, buy something for $5 from the table with a 100 dollar bill.  You lose all your change and get nothing in return.  Don't be that person. (If you find a counterfeit bill, there are a few ways to handle it.  You can simply apologize to the person and say, "Sorry, I can't accept this, it has come up as counterfeit." The person may not know they are carrying it.  Usually someone who is trying to pass off fake money will leave or cause a scene.  If you suspect someone is doing this purposefully, notify the Convention Staff IMMEDIATELY.)
Sales Tax and Use License: This is something that you should have handy should you need it.  Some states have different sales tax and you should/can print up a list of prices so you don't drive yourself nuts trying to figure it out.
Credit Card Processor: Paypal and Square have credit card readers that you can use with your phone or tablet and I know there are others out there.  I keep mine in my money box to avoid losing it or misplacing it.  In today's world, it is becoming more important to be able to deal with cards as people don't like having cash or using it like they use to - it will expand your sales as well, especially if people run out of money (which we all know happens).  You can simply smile and say, "Well I do take credit cards."
Pens: While I have pens in my basic kit, I have two in my Money box as well.
Calculator: Are you good at math?  I'm not.  Especially when you have to add up with sales tax.  Better to have a solar powered one that you can quickly use rather than stress out.  They are pretty cheap nowadays too.
Record Book: This is different from receipts and some may want to not use it.  This is a book you write down your sales in.  Its a great back up to your receipts and a great way to double check things and keep track of inventory.

Table Supplies

Here is where it gets a bit more complicated because some of this is going to depend on what you are selling and your own personal needs, but these are items that I always bring with me because I've found them necessary.  Again most of this is stuff I always have available in my convention supplies and don't use anywhere else or take out.

First Aid Kits are important - even if its just bandaids!

First Aid Kit: This doesn't have to have a lot, but the VERY minimum you should have is bandaids.  When in doubt, you'll cut yourself and you'll need them.  I personally have an actual office first aid kit that has various bandages, alcohol wipes, burn ointment, gauze etc...  If you have allergies, you should have an epi-pen or benadryl or something ready to use in an emergency.  If you are traveling with a friend, let them know where it is so they can get it for you quickly.  If you require special medication, have it in the kit as well.  If you wear contacts, have rewetting drops or solution in there in case you need them!
Maxipads/Tampons: Ladies, you know that when in doubt, its better to be prepared.  You should have these in your hotel room, at the table, in a pocket, in a bag, where ever you can put them - just in case.  And even if you never need them, you will be the savior of someone who finds themselves in need.  And just because you may not use them, doesn't mean you can't have one in your first aid kit!  
Gum/Breathmint: You are going to to be talking to people.  All day.  You don't want to be worrying about whether or not you are offending people around you - especially after eating.  Have some gum or breathmints with you.  Even if your breath wasn't bad, you'll feel better and more confident talking to others.
Chapstick: It can get very dry in the convention halls and talking will dry out your lips.
Claritan/Benadryl: Nothing like allergies to make your day miserable.  Have something to keep you from being a sneezing, sniffling mess at the table.  Besides, should someone have an allergic reaction, benadryl can be a life-saver (It has happened and I was very grateful I had something to help the sufferer).
Tylenol/Advil: Headaches aren't unusual at conventions for a number of reasons.  Aches and pains aren't either.  Between not eating or drinking properly and moving displays and supplies, you may find yourself in need of some sort of aspirin.  Maybe throw in some cramps...  yeah, better to have these with you.
Lotion: Dry skin is another troublesome aspect that you don't want to deal with and they sell enough small containers so that this isn't an issue to have with you.
Neosporin: This is another small item that it doesn't hurt to have with you just in case.
Sun Block: Some shows you might attend are outside and the last thing you want to go home with (aside from con-crud) is a sunburn.  Even so, you might be doing a lot of walking outside from the convention to your hotel and its better to avoid getting burned and looking like a lobster at the table the next day.
Wet Naps: Messes happen.  You should have something to help clean it up.
Napkins: I usually grab some from a restaurant or fast food place at the convention.  I like having a few in case there is a spill.
Hand Sanitizer: You're going to be having people handling things, touching things, touching you etc...  Con-crud is already a constant shadow, do what you can to keep it at bay!
Small trash bag: I bring plastic bags with me to give to people to hold my product when they buy, so I always have bags to use for trash should I need it.  Sometimes it isn't convenient to get up to find a large trash bin, or the con hasn't placed bins out.  Rather than leave garbage laying out on the floor - which is gross, rude to others and just... gross - I put it in my plastic bag and when I leave my table for the day/night, I drop it in a larger bin or find a place to throw it out.

A small kit w/chapstick, mirror, business cards & altoids!

Batteries: Some things I have at my table need batteries.  I bring extras with me so I don't have to have a moment of regret that I won't have music, or my sharpener or whatever...
Little mirror: After eating lunch, I like to see how I'm looking to make sure I don't have a huge leaf or piece of crud stuck between my teeth while I'm talking to people.
Hair tie/hair band: At some point, you might get hot or just annoyed at your hair or feel like its getting in the way.  I always have something with me to pull my hair back or up.
Cereal bars/protein bars: Getting a chance to eat something may not happen. You may find yourself stuck at your table at lunch or dinner - or you may not have money to go to the McDonalds or KFC...  Cereal bars and protein bars are a life saver in those cases.
Snacks: You are going to be sitting there for the day, so have something you can nibble on that won't leave a big mess (Almonds are a great snack - protein and not messy!) on the table or on your fingers.  I don't recommend Doritos or greasy items because you'll be handling your stuff and then leaving residue on everything.  Pretzels are good, as are Twizzlers.
Jacket/Sweater: I recommend dressing in layers generally for conventions because the temperatures change during the day, depending on if there is a need for heat or A/C, how many people are in the Artist Alley or what temperature the building set the thermostat at and of course whether you are sitting right under the vent.  Obviously if you are outside, you want to have something in case the weather turns. Have a jacket or sweater with you just in case you get a chill.
Umbrella: I usually have a small umbrella with me just in case...  I'd rather have it and not need it, than not have it and get drenched on my walk to and from the convention.
Shoe inserts/flat/comfy shoes: While we all want to look nice at the table, few people are going to see your feet.  I stand a lot at my table to be able to engage with customers, but even sitting, I want my feet to be comfortable and happy.  Happy feet = happy person.  Keep that in mind.  Some people have a pair of comfy slippers that they put on at the table and when they leave, they use their other shoes.
A book/e-reader/tablet/something to do: While doing commissions, if you have them, is great, not everyone does them and there are going to be slow periods that you are at your table.  Have a book to read, or a tablet or some activity to keep yourself from going crazy staring at the ceiling.  Have a sketchbook and draw or work on new projects! Obviously, don't have something that is going to draw all your attention and have you ignoring customers! 
Cell phone: This is something I recommend for a lot of reasons.  Partly it's to keep in touch with people if necessary, partly it's what you might use for your credit card reader, partly it might have apps to keep you entertained when it's slow.  When I do commissions, I take people's phone numbers (if they give it) so that I can call them when the commission is done rather than have them constantly checking in to see if it is ready.  It's also great personal security to have a phone on hand should it be needed.

My Stanley mobile tool chest has been a life-saver!

The above was a long list, I admit it, but most of it is small items you can toss in with the rest of your stuff.  One thing I will recommend to make your life easier, is to get a trolley or cart to move your stuff place to place.  Over time, I learned that having a rolling cart was my best option, but the best thing I did was invest in a mobile tool chest.  Most of these are large bins on wheels and they are deep chests.  Even better, they are sturdy and made to get banged up and take a beating without taking damage or breaking.  I've had my Stanley tool chest for at least 10 years and its shown no damage or aging.  At the table, it also serves as a little table for me to use so I have some surface area as needed.  They are relatively inexpensive and can be bought at hardware stores like Lowe's or Home Depot.  For smaller items, I have a rolling cart from Staples that folds down flat when I don't need it.  While you might think you don't need it, consider getting a cart, trolley, or rolling chest as an investment - its an investment in your business and your sanity.  Besides, its a great way to keep everything in one place and will make your life much easier.

Because you'll be so prepared, most likely, others will be asking to borrow items from you.  It's great to be helpful and to be able to help out others, but remember to get those things back.  It's easy if things are busy to overlook someone returning your scissors, or pens, but you'll want to make sure you have those back in your bins before you leave.  You might want to write your name on the items, or put colored tape on them.  On the other side, if you borrow something, RETURN IT!  And make note to add it to the items you should have with you when the next con comes up.

Now the following are sort of bonus lists.

Crafting

For those who do crafting I recommend the following extra items

Sewing kits can be tiny and have all you need!

Sewing Kit: This is a necessary evil should something get damaged in transit, or if you have to make a change as per a customer request.
Double stick tape
Regular tape
Tacky mount
String
Safety pins
Tape measure
Wire
Small wire cutter
Jump rings
Needle nose pliers
Glue dots
Earring backs (for jewelry makers)
Fabric pieces
Glue/hot glue/fabric glue

Cosplay

If you are a cosplayer and at your table, the last thing you want is issues that make you have to run up to your room.  Or perhaps you have cosplay supplies that you make and sell?  Here are some items you might want to have with you:

Sewing Kit: Same as crafters!
Safety pins
Superglue/hot glue/fabric glue
Double sided tape
Stain remover pens
Oil blotters
Bobby pins
Rewetting drops/solutions
Extra nylon/tights
Small make-up kit
Make-up remover
Earring backs

I'm sure there is more I could add, but after looking all over the internet and polling some AA artists, these were most of the general items that seem to be the best to have if you can.

Now, some advice to those of you sitting at the table that isn't on the list.

What Not To Wear:

New shoes: You should never wear new shoes the first time at any event.  They won't be broken in and will be uncomfortable, sometimes painful.  You aren't doing yourself any favors wobbling around while trying to do business at your table.

New bra: This is another thing that needs to be broken in before spending a day in it.  You'll be twitchy and uncomfortable all day.

Any new confining costuming: Corsets and bodices and the like, if they are new and haven't been worn before are probably not the best thing to wear at the table.  The same as the shoes and bra, you will most likely be uncomfortable.

Large costuming: Wearing something big or that sticks out or has large wings might look good, but keep in mind of where you are and where you'll be.  Some Artist Alley set ups don't have a lot of space behind the table or you may be close to your neighbors.  Keep in mind you'll be moving around, trying to get by others or around your table.  Do you want to be constantly knocking things over, hitting your neighbors, or their table?  To be honest, it can be less about your comfort and more about being considerate of those around you.


Please feel free to comment with more ideas of things to add to the list that I might have forgotten!  And stay tuned for the next blog entry!  Thank you for reading!

Next in the series: How To Be A Con Artist VII